—The Hard Copy—
By Rod Davis
Do you need a miracle in you life? Do you need one in your home? Is a relationship with someone you love slowly degenerating and facing eventual destruction and only a miracle from God can turn it around? Well, I’m going to tell you how to get a miracle.
“Surely you desire truth in the inner parts…” (Psalm 51:6) [I]
He arranged the wood, cut the bull into pieces and laid it on the wood. (1 Kings 18:33)
We’ve got to “come clean” with one another. We must, if you’ll excuse the expression, cut the bull! David understood the importance of honesty in relationships. He knew that the lines of communication could be severely hampered if he let an offence remain unsettled. The same holds true for us. Every interpersonal relationship you have (including the one you have with God) demands honesty.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” (Ephesians 4:25)
If you tie a tourniquet on one of your limbs and leave it there indefinitely something terrible will happen. That part of your body will no longer receive anything from the rest of your body. It will soon begin to whither and die. If you allow unresolved issues to cut you off from a family member or friend your relationship with them will begin to whither and die.
Do you have a relationship that is withering and dying? Maybe you feel like it’s already dead. Have you been hurt and angered by a loved one or perhaps a loved one is hurt with angry with you? You see no resolution to this painful situation? You need a miracle, right? Well, I’ve got one for you.
I have three words for you that will bring about amazing miracles in you life and bring healing to your interpersonal relationships!
We all blow it from time to time and even hurt someone we love. We’ve even searched for ways to make up for it. However, the three words I’m going to give you will help you do more to set things right than the most expensive gifts or most meaningful cards could you can offer.
No, it’s not the words “I love you” or “I am sorry” It’s not even the words “Please forgive me.” These expressions of remorse and affection may be good but nothing will break down walls and usher in healing like these three little words… “I WAS WRONG.”
“If we confess our sins, he (God) is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)
It’s that simple. If we confess our sins God will forgive our sins. In other words, call a spade a spade. Admit you were wrong. Don’t make excuses. Just “fess up.” Rather than trying to explain yourself, rather than trying to excuse your behavior, just say these three words. “I was wrong.” Don’t try to justify your actions or even your reactions. Just say, “I was wrong.” Do that first. Then you can add other words like, “Please forgive me.” But first you must admit your own wrongdoing in the matter.
“But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.” —Jesus (Luke 6:27-31)
“Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.” (1 Thessalonians 5:15)
It doesn’t matter to God who started the squabble. He doesn’t care who said what or did what to whom. Each of us are accountable to Almighty God for our actions and our reactions; that’s right—your reactions. “Don’t return wrong for wrong.” “Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” I am not accountable for what others do to me. However, I am accountable for how I react to them.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:13)
“In your anger do not sin Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” (Ephesians4:26)
In the eyes of God I am personally accountable for everything I do—everything! I can’t expect to go before God with excuses for disobeying Him, “You just don’t know what that person did to me! I was so hurt. How can I ever forgive them for what they did.” If that’s your attitude God wants to ask you a question. “How about you? How did you react to what they did? Did you get angry and say hurtful things to them?”
You may respond, “Well yes, but I was so hurt! They made me angry. What they did was wrong!”
To which God replies, “Yes, maybe so. I will hold them accountable for what they did. It was wrong and they need to apologize to you and repent before me as well. However, (and this is the part we don’t want to hear!) What about you? It takes two to tango. The way that you reacted to the offence is equally wrong. Right??
“Did I not say, ‘Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong…’? Did I not say ‘forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.’?
“Well… yes, but…”
“There’s no buts about it. Are you reacting in a Christlike way to insults?”
“Well,… no Lord. I have not.”
“Then… say it.”
“OK, I will. I was wrong; wrong to react in anger and bitterness to them and wrong to disobey your word.”
“Good. Now, what are you going to do?”
“Go to the one who offended me and tell him I was wrong to snap back at him and to act so un-Christlike.”
“He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth.” (Isaiah 53:7)
“I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.”—Jesus (John 13:15)
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 2:5)
“I was wrong.” What a powerful phrase! What a liberating thing to admit! “I was wrong. It doesn’t matter what you did to me, I was wrong to react the way I did! I’ve asked God to forgive me and now I’m asking you to forgive me.” Wow! That will set you free and set them free.
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.” — Jesus (Matthew 5:23-24)
It’s the formula for the healing of relationships with God and with others. “I was wrong.” Try it sometime. You’ll be amazed at what these three little words will do.
[I] If otherwise posted all scripture come from The Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.